Most people expect relationships to be complicated since mixed feelings and goals are usually involved. People can also change their perspectives as they grow older, which can enhance or destroy a relationship. Have you ever had someone tell you that they no longer knew who you are? But maybe they never really knew you; instead, they formulated in their mind an idea of who you are supposed to be. All these variables can make relationships seem very complex.

How deeply do you examine your relationships? Do you consider why you usually have certain types and how they usually play out? Are you dominant in one type of relationship but not in another?

How can we improve our relationships? Sadhguru offers us insight into dealing with our relationships and making them mutually beneficial.

Sadhguru: Everyone knows the sweetness of relationships, but there is also a lot of sourness – which you are beginning to taste. Unfortunately today, we have imbibed this idea from the West that if you utter the word “relationship”, people are generally thinking of body-based relationships. But relationships can be of many kinds.

If relationships are body-based, the excitement about each other’s body will usually die after some time. What you thought of as the ultimate is not ultimate after some time. It is natural that people begin to grow out of it when the main draw which brought them together starts to melt away. Without knowing why, they start being unpleasant to each other because, essentially, such a relationship is about extracting sweetness and happiness from another person. If you try to squeeze joy out of someone, after some time, when it does not yield the same results as it used to in the beginning, some bitterness will begin.

Certain things may happen as you start growing older. From yesterday to today, you are a little older. So today, while you are young, you must think of all the relationships that you hold in your life – not just biological relationships – in terms of an expression of joy, not an extraction of joy.

For this to happen, you must first become joyful by your own nature. If you focus on becoming an exuberant overflow of joy, and your relationship is about sharing this joy, you do not have to worry about the normal circus that people go through in their relationships.

A relationship may not stay just in one area of life. Once people are together, they will have to share many things. Naturally, you will start stepping on each other’s toes for many small things that happen. Because of this, there will be many interactions, or you can even call them altercations, that will happen.

You cannot manage all this on a daily basis. So, the best thing is to manage yourself in such a way that you are a naturally exuberant, joyful being. If this happens, your relationships will not be need-based.

When relationships are need-based, if what you need does not come, you will start cribbing. You will start complaining and feeling bitter that you are not getting what you are supposed to get. If you just eliminate this need within you, and you are naturally overflowing with joy, then you can hold fabulous relationships with every kind of person, irrespective of who they are. They do not have to be like you. May you have the most beautiful relationships in your life.

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