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Raising children is an extremely challenging, yet highly rewarding and fulfilling experience. If you’re a parent, chances are you’ve experienced both the frustration of trying to figure out the “right” way to raise your children and the feeling of joy that often comes from watching them grow.

The way we raise our children sets the precedence for the rest of their lives. It helps mold and shape them and unleash their potential for later on in life. Like every child, every parent is different and has a different parenting style. And while there aren’t any rules for raising children, there are some qualities shared by all good parents that you should keep in mind.

According to Dr. Lawrence Steinberg, the author of The Ten Basic Rules of Parenting, good parenting involves nurturing the qualities of honesty, kindness, self-reliance, co-operation, and cheerfulness. Good parenting also involves promoting motivation, intellectual curiosity, and a desire to achieve. It also keeps children from adopting harmful habits, such as drug and alcohol abuse, and helps them grow up to be emotionally balanced adults.

Many parents believe that strict parenting will foster good qualities in their children, make them resilient, and keep them from engaging in harmful behavior.  But some experts disagree with this point of view. According to Dr. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting, years of research on parenting styles has consistently shown that strict parenting produces kids with lower self-esteem and worse behavior.

So, what is the right way to raise children? This is a question that people often ask Sadhguru during his live talks. Below, we share an excerpt from one of Sadhguru’s talks where he shares his insight on parenting:

“If you want to grow your garden, you don’t sit there every day and try to extract flowers or fruits out of it. You just maintain the atmosphere and it grows well, isn’t it? That is all you can do, and that is all that should be done.

If parents are truly concerned about their children, they must raise their children in such a way that the child will never have any need for the parent. The process of loving should always be a liberating process, not an entangling process. When the child is born, allow the child to look around, spend time with nature and spend time with himself. Create an atmosphere of love and support and don’t try to impose your morals, ideas, religion or whatever in any way.

Just helping him to look at life as a human being is very essential for his wellbeing and the wellbeing of the world.

At the same time, the perils of living in this world are always there. It could be drugs, it could be an accident, it could be various perversions – all these things are there. But what you need to understand is whether you like it or not, today or tomorrow, your child has to learn to live with his own intelligence, making his own choices as to how much of what he has to do in his life. The sooner he gets equipped for this, the better. This does not mean you push a young child on the street to learn his own ways. You don’t try to counter-influence him with your own morality and values. You just help him to look at his life with more intelligence, rather than being influenced by this or that.

If the child feels most comfortable at home, he will naturally try to spend more time there than outside. Right now, a street corner may feel like a more comfortable place for him than being at home because of the impositions in the home ground. If that discomfort is not there, he will not make the street corner his sanctuary. But that does not mean he is not going to be exposed to the hard realities of the world. He will always be, and they will influence him in some way or the other. But always, the parent encouraging the child to learn to think for himself, to use his own intelligence to see what is best for him is the best insurance you have so that the child grows up well.”

Will Sadhguru’s wisdom on raising children reinforce or change your parenting style? Tell us in the comments below!





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  1. Sandra Larson Reply
    I do this with my son as you mentioned. That is why we have a good relationship. He is grown now, and it is always fun to see him when he visits as he is out on his own life journey.

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